Okay, so I just got off the phone with my Assistant, who is 23, and tender-hearted, and a little weird, because the 40-somethings that work in the salon were bullying her.
Which means they were being bitchy, and she needs to grow a pair.
I am sympathetic to everyone's situation: you've got an insecure child trying to lead a team of stubborn mules.
They kick, they bite, they bray.
They're mules.
And you've got an experienced, opinionated, set-in-their-ways team of mules being led by a child who is afraid of them.
She's practically ready to quit because she's upset that they ignore her and bitch about her.
After listening to her vent for a while, I actually said to her, "When I was your age..." which made me feel really old. But it's true, at 23 I was a whole different person who took everything personally and cried a lot, too.
So, I shared a few experiences that I've had, and told her that at some point, I realized that I can't live in fear of other people, nor can I let their issues fuck with my issues, or worse, become my issues.
And I told her that she needs to learn how to do that, too. But I also told her that I kind of hope that she'll live the kind of life and have the experiences in her life where she'll never have to be hard and not care enough to let things bother her that deeply. I wish that sort of life for everyone.
It's not realistic, but it made her feel better. And I think she realizes that I am on her side, too. Because I'm not going to abandon her or the salon just because some other stylists who should know better than to act that petty and immature are acting bitchy or mean. Seriously, though, they're not going to run me out of there -- if I leave, it's on my own terms and for my own reasons.
Dude, I'm giving sage, confidence-building advice to early twenty-somethings. That's fucked up.
But also kind of cool.
I might be goofy and immature, but I'm also very sensical when I want to be, I've had a lot of shitty experiences in my life that I've learned from, and I've adopted and adapted the motivational teachings of a couple of industry leaders that help put my career life in perspective, and hopefully help others to order their lives a bit.
And good God, I can't even really call it peer-counseling, either, because I'm not really the kind of person who can be her peer.
Which can only mean... I'm a mentor.
Which means they were being bitchy, and she needs to grow a pair.
I am sympathetic to everyone's situation: you've got an insecure child trying to lead a team of stubborn mules.
They kick, they bite, they bray.
They're mules.
And you've got an experienced, opinionated, set-in-their-ways team of mules being led by a child who is afraid of them.
She's practically ready to quit because she's upset that they ignore her and bitch about her.
After listening to her vent for a while, I actually said to her, "When I was your age..." which made me feel really old. But it's true, at 23 I was a whole different person who took everything personally and cried a lot, too.
So, I shared a few experiences that I've had, and told her that at some point, I realized that I can't live in fear of other people, nor can I let their issues fuck with my issues, or worse, become my issues.
And I told her that she needs to learn how to do that, too. But I also told her that I kind of hope that she'll live the kind of life and have the experiences in her life where she'll never have to be hard and not care enough to let things bother her that deeply. I wish that sort of life for everyone.
It's not realistic, but it made her feel better. And I think she realizes that I am on her side, too. Because I'm not going to abandon her or the salon just because some other stylists who should know better than to act that petty and immature are acting bitchy or mean. Seriously, though, they're not going to run me out of there -- if I leave, it's on my own terms and for my own reasons.
Dude, I'm giving sage, confidence-building advice to early twenty-somethings. That's fucked up.
But also kind of cool.
I might be goofy and immature, but I'm also very sensical when I want to be, I've had a lot of shitty experiences in my life that I've learned from, and I've adopted and adapted the motivational teachings of a couple of industry leaders that help put my career life in perspective, and hopefully help others to order their lives a bit.
And good God, I can't even really call it peer-counseling, either, because I'm not really the kind of person who can be her peer.
Which can only mean... I'm a mentor.
2 comments:
I like the green background color in this frame of your site. I do NOT like the other side's color. The stars are keen, as they match this green, and you know I like the sparkly fairy. However, the teal (?) color behind the stars clashes with the green on this side.
I didn't design the stuff, I just use it, mister. I like it.
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